It's all very well me telling you there is no such thing as a friend zone, but when you find yourself constantly within its confinements, that's a hard pill to swallow.
So what do I mean?
Well it's all semantics.
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n. (used with a sing. or pl. verb)
1. Linguistics The study or science of meaning in language.
2. Linguistics The study of relationships between signs and symbols and what they represent. Also called semasiology.
3. The meaning or the interpretation of a word, sentence, or other language form: We're basically agreed; let's not quibble over semantics.
By this I mean logically speaking, you are not put in a friend zone, you are merely friends, because that's how you've presented yourself.
Did you make friends with this person just because you fancied them?
This is your first mistake. Do you use the same methods to make friends with someone who you just want to be friends with? Did you make yourself seem like you want to be in a relationship at any point, or just bypass and assume that making friends first is the safest option?
Stop putting yourself out there as a friend. You want to go out with this person, right? Then why not drop some subtle and not-so-subtle hints about it?
By this I do not mean advance as a sexual predator!
Because that won't get you much further. No one likes to be made to feel uncomfortable by inappropriate remarks and forwardness. So be gentle, and respond to the object of your affections like they are just that, not as just a friend.
And so what if you are still feeling friend zoned after a couple of months goes by? Ever heard the proverb -
"Softly, softly, catchee monkey."
Patience is a virtue. In fact you could probably think of dozens of expressions relating to patience ("a watched pot never boils," "Rome wasn't built in a day,"...etc etc), and this is because patience is key.
If you really like someone, are you not even willing to wait for them?
And if that's the case, maybe it's time for you to move on.
Sometimes honesty hurts, and I am going to be presenting you with a lot more of it. But it's going to get you results, so be sure to bookmark this site and check back to see what else I have to reveal about the mythological friend zone.
